Sick, Sick, Sick

I'm so sick and tired!

Sick of bring chronically ill

Sick of feeling stuck

Sick of putting life on hold

Sick of feeling like I have no control over my body

Sick of being treated like a medical mystery instead of a whole person

Sick of trying to take care of myself and not feel any better off for it

Sick of being poked and prodded

Sick of being judged and patronised

Sick of doctors treating me like I'm some kind of nuisance

Sick of being ignored

Sick of not being taken seriously

Sick of doctors telling me that all of this must somehow be my fault

Sick of poisoning my body with medications that don't help

Sick of people telling me it's all in my head

I'm just so sick of everything...

Being My Own Cheerleader

I know the title sounds cheesy, but that exact phrase was what sparked the idea for this post really, so I'm stuck with it!

Before your imagination starts running wild, no I have not joined a group that wears short skirts and waves pompoms in the air while chanting slogans for football teams!

The word cheerleader applies to chronic illness in my mind as a way to describe supporting yourself.  To cheer yourself on and be a strength that you can draw on when you need it most.

In the 2 and a bit years since my Endometriosis diagnosis, I have ended up with an unusual kind of team on my side, which is made up of immediate family, a few close friends, doctors, other medical practitioners etc. 

But although I have my 'team' around me, I have learnt that you can't survive the day to day chronic illness life by solely relying on your team mates.  Sometimes they get tired, burnt out or just let you down when you least expect it. 

So, although the team is an important part of your support network, a lot of the strength and will to carry on has to come from within. 

It has to come from you.

Believe me, some days it feels almost impossible to carry on, and you feel like there is absolutely nothing left in the tank.  This feeling of being down and hopeless can last anything from a few hours to many days in a row.  It's so important to let yourself have some down time, because it is exhausting being your own cheerleader and always willing yourself to carry on.  Don't let your brain tell you that you are weak for shedding a few tears, or having a day where you just need some time alone to process things.  It's completely natural, because let's face it, no one can be happy and brave all of the time!

But it is also important to reboot.  To use that inner strength and courage to bring yourself out of a dark patch.  To see the light again and bring that positivity that lies inside all of us to the surface, even if it feels like it is buried deep within you.

Today may be a bad day, a hard day, an impossible day...

But tomorrow is a whole lot of new, a clean slate full of possibilities.  So dig out that inner cheerleader and help yourself through whatever is going on in life right now.  Once you see the light again and realise that what you do have is precious, you will feel more positive and the burden that you carry every day will feel a little bit lighter.

Taking the Plunge

Today I made a start on the next phase of my life.

I took the plunge and applied for entry into a distance learning Course through the Open Polytechnic.

It may not be exactly where I would have liked to have been right now, but my Endo journey has complicated life a bit and I haven't been well enough to follow my dreams like I would have if I was well.

That's the thing with chronic illness - all best laid plans can (and usually do) go completely out the window!  I've found that I have had to take some time (in my case a lot of time), step back and take care of my health first.  There's no point in worrying about what you're not doing, because that's not going to help you get to where you want to be.  In fact, it;s probably just going to make you more stressed, and therefore even more unwell, which isn't what any of us spoonies want.

So, now to wait and see if I get accepted onto the Course.  Hopefully I do, because it will give me another focus and be great for my mental health (although maybe a little tricky with brain fog!).

Doing this Course doesn't mean I'm cured by any means.  I am still in pain, and have chronic nausea, chronic fatigue etc.  But I have gotten to a point where I think I am stable enough to tackle this.  If it turns out I'm wrong, then it will just take a little bit more patience and perseverance, but I WILL get there in the end.

June Thoughts

Tonight I'm exhausted having spent a few hours with my Granny to help with her stroke rehab.  It's hard work, but I push through the exhaustion and keep going because I can see the results in her cognitive ability, speech and just the smiles on her face.  That and the fact that apart from Mum and I, there isn't really anyone else contributing to try and help her regain what she has lost.

Anyway, that's not why I'm here tonight...

I'm here because I've been meditating on the stage I'm at in my life right now, Endo wise and just in general really.  Doesn't help that I'm going to be turning another year older soon either, as that time of year always brings on thinking about and reflecting on the previous year.

To think that the past year has brought no real achievements for me in my personal or professional life at all scares me.  That I haven't been able to work, volunteer or study because my health has been so bad.  The only big thing that I've really achieved in the past year is to be in hospital less often, only around 3 times in the past 12 months, not counting the numerous GP and Outpatient appointments!

Just the realisation that days are continuing to pass me by and I'm not able to make any really big life changes because of my body is hard to accept.

But I guess at the end of the day, this is what God wants me to do right now.  To focus on myself and to rejuvenate and heal my broken body and mind.

A good and beautiful friend of mine, who I actually first met in hospital last year, has sent me some messages lately that have meant a lot to me and sometimes brought me to tears.  She is helping me, through her encouraging and positive messages, to come to a place of acceptance with where I am at in life right now.

S, you may have no idea how much your messages are helping me right now, but I just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart.  People might say that they're only words, but it's how you interpret them that counts   Thank you so very much for supporting me, it means so much to me.